Do the ill vibes of other people depress you? Perhaps you’ve grown distant from your coworkers, family, or even pals.
It’s simple to take in bad energy when you’re around it and begin to feel that way yourself. Your mental state may be affected, and you might start to feel worn out. It’s crucial to surround yourself with positive people who you can easily connect with. We all understand, however, that it isn’t always possible, particularly since we aren’t able to pick our family members or coworkers. Having said that, there are ways we can approach circumstances positively and prevent negativity from obscuring our judgement.
1. Resist the urge to judge or assume.
It’s difficult to show compassion to someone when you think you know who they are. He is rude. She has a bad attitude. He is-insert other suitable noun-. We must keep in mind that it is conceivable even though it may seem impossible that someone will wake up one day and act differently. Negative ideas manifest themselves in your body language. Someone who is prone to being negative could be all too inclined to reflect that. Try approaching them with the optimistic outlook you wish they possessed. Be optimistic about them. You can be pleasantly surprised at any time.
2. Maintain the right relationship based on reality as it is.
I constantly wish my friend could be more upbeat with her. I frequently put myself in uncomfortable circumstances because I want to be of service and I want her to be content. I’ve lately come to the conclusion that the greatest thing I can do is accept her for who she is, tell her I think she can be happy, and then allow her some space to decide. That means, after I’ve tried to help, gently bringing our talk to an end. Or ending a night out early if I’ve done everything I can and it’s wearing me out. I’m hoping that one day she’ll want to change. All I can do right now is love her while also having enough self-love to take care of my needs.
3. Temper your emotional response.
Negative people frequently gravitate toward others who have strong reactions—individuals who readily extend sympathy, become indignant, or become insulted. I imagine this helps people feel less alone in their own rage or despair by providing a small amount of light in the shadows of their inner world. More so than what you say, people take note of and learn from what you do. If you react emotionally to the circumstance, you’ll educate them to rely on you for a response. We all have a tendency to react, therefore it can be challenging to control our reactions. Once you’ve listened patiently for as long as you can, react as coolly as you can with a straightforward statement of the truth.
4. Avoid blame, be firm.
Don’t accuse, presume, or confront them. It rarely works to advise someone to “stop being so negative.” Give this person the empathy and compassion you would like to receive. Just be careful not to let them dominate you. Set clear boundaries for yourself. Make it known when someone behaves inappropriately. People will take advantage of your views, your time, and your energy if you don’t stand up for them.
5. Find the positive.
Find out what makes you feel good. This may include specific individuals, TV series, literature, exercise, self-care, etc. Look for these things frequently, especially if you feel like other people are using up all of your energy. Additionally, walk away if another person’s unfavourable vibe is interfering with your happiness (even if that means forever).
6. Question what you’re getting out of it.
We frequently gain something from our relationships with unpleasant people, as I have indicated. Ask yourself straight out if you’ve adopted a carer position because it helps you feel wanted. Have you kept the connection going so you can spread sanctimonious rumours about this person to others? Do you have a stake in maintaining the current situation? The only thing you actually have control over is how you respond, which you can change by challenging yourself. You cannot alter another person’s thoughts, feelings, or behaviours. Even the most aggressive or charitable behaviour won’t alter another person’s reality. You only have control over what you believe and do, so try your best.
7. Dig deeper, but stay out of the hole.
If you make an effort to comprehend someone else’s perspective, it is always simpler to show compassion to them. But that doesn’t entirely excuse inappropriate behaviour. People won’t be particularly motivated to improve their behaviour if you let them know that you approve of their poor behaviour (which they may actually want deep down). When dealing with them, it could be helpful to tell yourself again, “I recognise your suffering. However, I’m most useful if I don’t contribute to it. This may enable you to deal with them firmly and kindheartedly so that they don’t draw you down with them.
8. Act instead of just reacting.
We frequently avoid trying to lift someone’s emotions until they become angry or despondent. Don’t wait for a circumstance to help someone you know develop pleasant sensations if their conduct indicates that they frequently battle with challenging thoughts or feelings. Tell them they accomplished something right by complimenting them on it. Remind them of a good memory, such as “Do you remember that time you scored that touchdown at the corporate picnic? That was fantastic! If they haven’t pulled you down, you’ll want to encourage them more. They might feel a bit less pain as a result of this, which may help to lessen that in the future.
9. Don’t take it personally, but know that sometimes it is personal.
According to conventional wisdom, while dealing with a negative person, you shouldn’t ever take anything personally. It’s a little more complicated than that, in my opinion. You can’t just disregard everything someone says about you because they’re rude or inconsiderate. Even a rude person could have a point. Consider their advice while remaining open to learning. Accept that you don’t deserve the overly emotional tone in someone else’s voice, but consider their arguments with an open mind so you can learn. I’ve learnt some of the most valuable lessons from people whose opinions I wish weren’t correct.
10. Remember the numbers.
According to research, stress and disease are substantially more common in persons with negative views. The physical health of a person is greatly influenced by their mental state. You may be certain that someone is doing poorly for themselves if they are making things tough for those around them. What a tragic fact that someone must act out in order to experience some form of release from their anguish, even if that relief comes from making other people angry. It’s simpler to keep focused on minimising negativity than than defending yourself when you consider how much a difficult person is experiencing.
